I was having my breakfast and reading the morning daily , while carelessly surfing through my facebook newsfeed , when my eyes caught hold of the "times of india" page that spoke of the suicide of Jiah Khan , the young and promising Indian actress who hung herself to death . Yes , it was hard to digest . I immediately changed the channel on tv from doraemon and started surfing towards the news channels . All of them were flooding with inputs speaking of her suicide , trying to decipher the reason and giving in the other needed and no-so-needed details .
So , the previous night , June 2, 2013 , she had sought to this extreme measure at 11 45 pm by hanging herself from the ceiling fan at her residence , in the absence of her mother and sister . Initially , her unsuccessful career after a promising beginning with a debut against Mr Bachhan was cited as the prime reason behind this step . News channels spoke of how she was too young to judge herself and how should have waited and tried harder and not given up .
However , the biggest possible twist in the tale came about 4 days later , when her sister found a six- page long suicide note that clearly suggested her plan of ending her life . It also brought to light an uberly ugly picture of her decaying relationship with her boyfriend , Suraj Pancholi , a struggling actor and son of Aditya Pancholi .
The letters summed up into facts that shook the bases of the case . She was repeatedly harassed , physically and mentally by the man in question . Apparently , she had aborted their child too but nothing mattered to him and her cries and wails fell to his deaf ears . He repeatedly cheated on her and was ostensibly , living on her money too . After living through such an abusive relationship , she heard her dreams shatter and could see no reason to live .
The investigation began and Pancholi was taken behind the bars . However , being a popular actor's son , considerations were given , hearings were delayed . And etc etc , like how things go here .
But regardless of whatever happens , one life's gone . One person's chance to shine bright is asleep . Her dreams , her aspirations , her hopes , the candle burning it all's dimmed . People are blaming the man for doing it all her . But , somewhere she's equally to be blamed for taking everything from him . Like Gandhiji's rightly remarked , the person who bears oppression is equally , or maybe more at fault as compared to the oppressor . She killed herself , she snatched the happiness of her mother , her sister , her friends , people who cared for her , people to whom she mattered . And she did all that for someone who doesn't care, never did and supposedly never will . He might as well be watching a football match with his friends or maybe having beer and partying with new girls . Her loved ones , on the other hand , her mother ,would still probably be sitting in a corner with her deceased daughter's photograph , pondering over the tragedy , still struck at the reality of the disbelieving act . Ultimately , who's the loser ? It's neither the girl nor the boy . It's the people who have stayed back and have to face the silence after the storm .
My childhood friend once asked me , if it's okay to kill yourself and if it's not , then should we hate the person who's done that ? The truth is , everything under the sun can be reasoned out , it can be rationalized and molded according to your wishes and wants , so there's hardly anything that remains - right or wrong . It's purely a state of mind . However , the only thing that should be remembered here is , that "death" is an irreversible action , Once done , can never be undone . And once a person is gone , you hate him / love him / miss him , nothing would matter to him at all , because he's gone . It's you who has stayed back and you know the pain , you know the suffering . Hate is too negative an option and with the pain and the misery already there in the air , there'd be no room for hate . Practicality says , move on - life goes on . Blah- blah . Reality , cling on to the memories, but remember the fact that you're alive and there're more lives attached to you and you wouldn't want them to have a taste of the medicine that you're currently on .
It's too complicated a thing to speak on , actually . Hundred people , hundred different ideas , hundred different ways to deal it .
May Jiah Khan's soul rest in peace and may her family and friends be given the strength to endure this pain because they're the actual fighters at the moment .
So , the previous night , June 2, 2013 , she had sought to this extreme measure at 11 45 pm by hanging herself from the ceiling fan at her residence , in the absence of her mother and sister . Initially , her unsuccessful career after a promising beginning with a debut against Mr Bachhan was cited as the prime reason behind this step . News channels spoke of how she was too young to judge herself and how should have waited and tried harder and not given up .
However , the biggest possible twist in the tale came about 4 days later , when her sister found a six- page long suicide note that clearly suggested her plan of ending her life . It also brought to light an uberly ugly picture of her decaying relationship with her boyfriend , Suraj Pancholi , a struggling actor and son of Aditya Pancholi .
The letters summed up into facts that shook the bases of the case . She was repeatedly harassed , physically and mentally by the man in question . Apparently , she had aborted their child too but nothing mattered to him and her cries and wails fell to his deaf ears . He repeatedly cheated on her and was ostensibly , living on her money too . After living through such an abusive relationship , she heard her dreams shatter and could see no reason to live .
The investigation began and Pancholi was taken behind the bars . However , being a popular actor's son , considerations were given , hearings were delayed . And etc etc , like how things go here .
But regardless of whatever happens , one life's gone . One person's chance to shine bright is asleep . Her dreams , her aspirations , her hopes , the candle burning it all's dimmed . People are blaming the man for doing it all her . But , somewhere she's equally to be blamed for taking everything from him . Like Gandhiji's rightly remarked , the person who bears oppression is equally , or maybe more at fault as compared to the oppressor . She killed herself , she snatched the happiness of her mother , her sister , her friends , people who cared for her , people to whom she mattered . And she did all that for someone who doesn't care, never did and supposedly never will . He might as well be watching a football match with his friends or maybe having beer and partying with new girls . Her loved ones , on the other hand , her mother ,would still probably be sitting in a corner with her deceased daughter's photograph , pondering over the tragedy , still struck at the reality of the disbelieving act . Ultimately , who's the loser ? It's neither the girl nor the boy . It's the people who have stayed back and have to face the silence after the storm .
My childhood friend once asked me , if it's okay to kill yourself and if it's not , then should we hate the person who's done that ? The truth is , everything under the sun can be reasoned out , it can be rationalized and molded according to your wishes and wants , so there's hardly anything that remains - right or wrong . It's purely a state of mind . However , the only thing that should be remembered here is , that "death" is an irreversible action , Once done , can never be undone . And once a person is gone , you hate him / love him / miss him , nothing would matter to him at all , because he's gone . It's you who has stayed back and you know the pain , you know the suffering . Hate is too negative an option and with the pain and the misery already there in the air , there'd be no room for hate . Practicality says , move on - life goes on . Blah- blah . Reality , cling on to the memories, but remember the fact that you're alive and there're more lives attached to you and you wouldn't want them to have a taste of the medicine that you're currently on .
It's too complicated a thing to speak on , actually . Hundred people , hundred different ideas , hundred different ways to deal it .
May Jiah Khan's soul rest in peace and may her family and friends be given the strength to endure this pain because they're the actual fighters at the moment .